Peter’s Wednesday Interview Blog – The Dean Family take a vacation at the WOE to try and save their marriage!
Greetings, WOE Friends!
I hope all is well with each of you who are reading this. If not, then hopefully it will be soon!
I have attached the latest HR Picture: Human Greed and Selfishness. If you’ve read the WOE Story and been following me, you’ll know how much I agree with this statement. So many people in business just want to make as much as they possibly can. Sometimes, there’s no point in which they say, “I guess I’ve had my fill.”
But what happens? The money keeps being taking from others who could benefit more. I remember a shop owner once told me, “People visiting here only have so much money to spend. The more stores you add, the less money there is to go around.”
I think of that when it comes to health insurance, pharmaceuticals, theme parks, entertainment venues, etc. The more they take from us, the less there is to go around. When gas prices drop, people have more money to spend on restaurants, hotels, airfare, cars, and more. The money gets spread around. Not siphoned off to a few large companies and shareholders.
WOE Cares Need to Know topic for this week is Autism. The information will be available by 4:00 p.m. today.
This week’s Interview/Story is with the Dean Family. On the verge of a divorce, they take one last family vacation together to try and make things work.
Frank is a 45-year-old married father of two young ladies, Lea, 10, and Tina, 14. Diane is his wife of 25 years. I met them last night for dinner, and they shared their story with me.
I Hope you enjoy it!
“We met in our first year of college. We were both from out of state and taking the same major, business. I noticed how pretty she was months before I got the nerve to even talk to her.
She was very pleasant and down to earth. Not hung up on her looks like many of the other young women on campus.”
“He was handsome. Still is. Very shy and I knew he really liked me because he was so nervous. We sat down together for lunch in the cafeteria and told stories about our high school days and how much we hated them.
It was so funny, because Frank told this one story about him getting `pants’ in the school hallway, and I laughed so hard, milk came shooting out of my nose.”
“Oh, how I remember that. That was hilarious.”
“Tell me what brought you two to the WOE and what happened with this seemingly great start to your relationship, I asked them.”
“Well, we continued to see each other and eat our meals together. I finally asked her out on a real date, and she accepted. Two and a half years later, we both graduated and got married.
Life was harmonious and fun for a while. We didn’t have the kids until later in our marriage because we wanted to focus on our careers. The problems started because we both were at the peak of our jobs and had been promoted several times each. We were both working in upper management and were required to work many long days and evenings and take many business trips.
This worked well until we had Tina. Then it was, `Whose turn is it to give her a bath, do her homework, get her ready for school?’ “
“Frank and I were very happy doing what we did for a living. But we were always arguing about who should raise Tina. For some strange reason, we thought having another one would make things better for Tina and us. So, Lea was born.
But it didn’t. It only made things worse. We wound up hiring a live-in nanny to help raise them. We would get text messages when they did something for the first time; like walk, talk, and go to the potty by themselves. We were awful parents!
We didn’t have time for ourselves, let alone our kids.”
Diane and I tried counseling. But we loved our jobs and refused to give on either side. The kids weren’t raised by us, but by someone who wasn’t even a family member. We could barely make it to their birthday parties.
Divorce papers were prepared prior to us coming here. But we decided to make one last ditch effort to see if a family vacation could save our marriage and help us be better parents.”
We purposefully stayed in a section of Hotel Family - History, with no internet or WI-FI. The first two days were terrible. We were so used to being in constant contact with our companies, and now we had no communication. We bickered and fought in front of the kids. Our own kids saw us fight on our family vacation. Part of this vacation was for Lea’s tenth birthday. She has always wanted to be here.
On day three, we started to get used to no phone, computer, or any business. We sat on the balcony and watched the birds, squirrels, and rabbits play. We rode rides with the kids and started seeing shows together. I began to notice how much these kids meant to me. I watched as they held my hand and laughed at my lame jokes.”
“Lisa started telling me about the boys she likes. She told me about school and her friends. I started to feel like a mom.”
“The girls went to Fun Town USA with us, and we had a ball roller skating, dancing, playing VR games together. We were having a blast. Then the girls started going out a few times on their own to The State Fair. Diane and I ordered our dinner to the suite and had an evening like we haven’t in years.
As a family, we ate together, went to the water park together, did so many great things as a family. Having all the time to just be with each other and nobody else has changed who we are.
On day seven of our ten-day vacation, Diane brought me a cup of coffee on the balcony and sat down. We talked about how much fun we were having and how we needed to cut back on our jobs and focus on our kids and our marriage.
Then, she started crying. I asked her what was wrong. She said she didn’t want to lose me and see the family split up. I began to cry myself.”
“When we told the kids Frank, and I were going to stay together, they both wildly cheered and jumped around. Tina had tears in her eyes and told us she had never had this much fun as a family. Lea said this was the best birthday gift she could have gotten. “I got my parents for a birthday gift!”
Thank you, World of Entopia! You saved our family!”
Thanks for reading! Until next time,